Life, Love, & Laundry — marriage

Living with a spouse who has bipolar disorder is like riding a rollercoaster. There are exhilarating highs, terrifying lows, and a whole lot of in-between. It's a journey filled with unique challenges, but also moments of profound love and connection. It’s a life I know intimately, and one I wouldn't trade, though it certainly hasn't been easy. We know the statistics are daunting; approximately 90% of marriages with one spouse being bipolar end in divorce. That knowledge isn't lost on us. Surviving together feels like we're constantly fighting to beat the odds, a battle we’re determined to win. The "ups"...

I wrote this blog post last week as I knew I would be busy today, as Lisa is having surgery to remove her baby making cocoon, not the medical name.  I call it this because I use humour to make things easier when I am uneasy about things that make me nervous.  I know that these type surgeries happen everyday all over the world and we have the very best doctors and nurses, so I should feel at ease.  Problem is my heart and head often fight it out and my heart tends to over power that part of my...

Twenty-three years ago today Lisa and I were married on a beautiful day with light snowfall.  The truth was most people expected our marriage not to last because we were getting married out of a sense of doing the right thing.  Why was it the right thing?  Because on October 27th, just a few months before, we had Adrianna our first child. We both wanted to have the baby and both of us wanted to be part of her life, so we decided to get married.  Truth is we were not in love when we got married, we barely knew...