The End of a Chapter

Dear Lisa – I had a hysterectomy when I was 32. This was almost 36 years ago. Back then the surgery involved was very invasive compared to our modern day methods of performing a hysterectomy. It was necessary because I had a severe case of endometriosis which had grown into my bowel. I suffered excruciating pain for several years before the surgery. I had had one miscarriage and then gave birth to twins. My doctor was very wise and counselled me well about the physical and emotional aspects of this surgery. Some people tried to convince me that I was too young, that I should have more children before doing something so FINAL. An aunt told me she had had a hysterectomy and had never felt like a woman again. Despite the naysayers I went through with the surgery which I now tell everyone was the best surgery ever invented. After all the years of discomfort and inconvenience I woke up the morning following the surgery a new woman. Contrary to my aunt’s negative attitude I felt every bit “a woman”. I was a healthy woman, a woman who was not only physically healthy but emotionally healthy. For years the days I was unable to function properly took its toll on my mental and emotional being. I was still every bit a woman because I still had a woman’s heart. Yes my ovaries and uterus had made it possible for me to be a mother but even if they had never given me that opportunity I would still have been a woman. Also I feel that once I was healthy I was able to be a much better mother and wife. I pray that you will find the same feelings of wholeness and happiness that was my experience. Love you my sweet friend.